Why should you bother to declutter your home? The benefits are vast.
If you live with things you don’t really use or love, then you are a candidate for moving to living clutter free.
Everything is energy. When energy gets stuck, it shows up as clutter.
If you have felt stagnant, or a longing for something new in your life, a great way to shake things up is to look at your stuff.
I mean really look at it.
And see each thing for what it means to you, and why it is worthy of your bandwidth.
Doing exactly this started a transformative journey I began just about two years ago.
How I got here.
I had lived in New York City in a small apartment, for years. I couldn’t possible have too much stuff!
I had 600 square feet to live and store in. How could something so limited get out of hand?
When I moved to North Carolina with my new husband, I found I had apparently accumulated things. So had he.
We built our dream home, and after a few years, we had our beautiful son. Now we were 3.
Let me tell you, left unchecked, a family of 3 with a lot of room to store things can accumulate some stuff!
The tipping point.
I began to find my stuff interfering with my life.
I was spending a lot of time wrangling things. Figuring out where to put them. Or just moving them around when the cleaning lady came twice a month.
I was feeling tired and overwhelmed. I didn’t feel like I could get ahead of my mess.
I tried lots of things.
Getting rid of one thing for every one thing I brought into the house.
Collecting a bag of stuff a week to throw away or donate.
Turning my hangers around to see what I was really wearing.
These strategies were fine, and they helped me lighten my load a bit, but they didn’t make a dent. And I never felt a difference.
About this time in my life I had begun working with a life coach. I was a successful designer in a niche market, but I was not happy in my career.
During my work with my coach, a recurring theme was my intense desire to reduce my stuff. To feel freer, having less to worry about in my home, and in my mind.
About this time Marei Kondo’s Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up was released. I bought it immediately, and devoured the book.
I was immediately inspired to apply what I’d learned, which I believe was supercharged with the inside work I was doing with my life coach.
My work with my coach helped me to become conscious of my environment, and really apply what I was learning reading the book. I learned to identify what I really wanted in my life, and what was there out of guilt, fear, or obligation.
I learned how to trust my intuition, and was able to let go of things I’d clung to before.
The potent cocktail of coaching and decluttering has truly been life changing for me.
Declutter your space.
This one is straightforward, but the unconscious resistance to getting rid of things can be sneaky. There can be many reasons we hold on to things that are not helping us be our best, and may actually be taking up our energy and holding us back! Becoming conscious about why you have everything you do will help you get rid of what you don’t need or want, and make room for new experiences and opportunities.
Just start. Pick up one thing, look at it and say “Why do I have this? Do I love it? Is it useful to me NOW?”
Declutter your relationships.
Your relationships can help you be your best, or they can keep you small. Be compassionate with yourself, and declutter the relationships that are bringing you down. Surround yourself with positive people that you enjoy being around!
Declutter your commitments.
Learn to say no.
Tap into your gut when you are asked to do something, or are considering adding something to your agenda.
Try having your first response be “no” until you have some time to think it through.
Declutter your thoughts.
Being vigilant about our mental diet can make all the difference. Be a good custodian of the thoughts you entertain, and know when to shift things. Mental clutter can be the most insidious.
Get rid of thoughts and mental activity that is not helping you thrive and be the best you can be. If you struggle with this, try meditation where you quiet your mind.
If you still have trouble, try reading or listening to inspiring books or podcasts. Talking with a therapist or a coach can also help you turn things around and get your mindset working with you.
Find ways to practice this every day!
Pick up an item in your home and ask yourself why you have it. Do you love it? Is it useful now? If not, and you still can’t send it on, ask yourself why? Journal about what comes up.
You may be surprised at what your stuff can tell you if you listen!
Kimberly is a home and lifestyle coach, helping women identify and realize their best home and life. She has been featured in publications and podcasts, and is a Huffington Post contributor. She believes our surroundings and relationships have a direct effect on how happy we are. If you want to learn more about how to live in alignment, raise your vibration and create your peaceful, happy home and life, click here to get weekly tips and more information on working with her.