Do you live alone? If you do, you can count on having full control over the style and decor of your space. If you don’t plan to stay alone, you may want to stick around for this post, cause you’ll need to learn about blending.
My husband and I built our house together.
We loved the process, but it wasn’t always easy.
Since I am a designer and he’s a CPA, I thought that surely I would be making the majority of decisions. I was wrong! He had very definite ideas about what he wanted to live with. There were some things that I loved that he hated. There were some things he wanted that I couldn’t live with.
We had to communicate and compromise. It took some adjustment and some concessions. There were things he introduced me to that I never would have considered, but since they were important to him, we made it work… and vice versa. It was a loving journey of discovery of ourselves, each other and the life we were building together; an intense exercise in combining and appreciating our different points of view.
Following are some tips to help the process of understanding and collaborating on your space so everyone is happy.
Each person with a stake in what changes will be made, or what space will be created, do the following (this includes kids, too!):
- Make a list of what he or she likes and dislikes, as it pertains to the living space. Include big dreams and little details.
- Pull tears from magazines, or save images on Houzz. Note what they like and why.
- Take time each week to sit down and review each others images and lists. Talk it out and understand each person’s perspective.
Everyone in the household should feel heard and represented.HighVibeHome
I help clients work through and get a clear picture of what they want their home to be, how they want it to feel to support the goals and happiness of everyone who lives there.
Have you had experience with blending your taste and style with a loved one? I’d love to hear about it and any strategies you used to make it work in the comments below!
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