Last week I was talking with a friend who had was feeling tired of her home.
She lives in a great house, and it is decorated beautifully, but it has been this way for a while.
She was starting to feel stagnant, and uninspired.
This can happen to people in any type of home, from a little shack to a gorgeous mansion.
Maybe you’ve never loved it, or maybe you have grown weary of the same old thing.
There are many reasons this can happen.
You’ve got too much stuff.
Clutter is accumulating and stealing your energy.
It’s not like all of a sudden one day you wake up and “too much stuff” has been delivered.
It is a slow creep that you don’t notice, until it is affecting your day to day life in a negative way.
You are tolerating things you dislike.
Are there rooms or places you really don’t like, but you don’t have the time or money to do anything about?
Or maybe you have some spaces that are uninspired, and you want to make a change, but you have no idea what to do?
The ambience is off.
Look at your space with fresh eyes (and ears and nose)!
Use all your senses when evaluating where you live.
Pay attention to lighting that doesn’t serve your purposes anymore. Does your home smell fresh and welcoming, or are you breathing stagnant air? What do you hear when you are in your home?
There are some simple but powerful ways to address the things that are bringing you down in your home!
1. Reduce what you have.
Keep the stuff you love.
Release the things that aren’t serving you. Pay attention to the emotions you feel that could be masquerading as “love.” Guilt, regret, compulsion, fear… Identifying and getting rid of the things that are weighing you down will get your energy moving.
This can have amazing energizing and renewing effects on the way you relate to your home.
I talk about some reasons the Konmari method of decluttering works so well in this post.
2. Make some small changes that have a big impact.
If you haven’t changed anything in your home for a while, you may have outgrown your style, or just grown weary of what you look at every day.
Consider painting the walls a new color, or even just adding an accent wall.
Colortopia allows you to upload a photo of your room and change out the color to see what it will look like before you paint it.
Changing out some pillows or fabrics on furniture or window treatments.
Add a new plant or two.
There are many easy DIY projects you can do in a weekend that make a big difference.
If you are dissatisfied down to the bones of your home, then it may be time for a remodel. If you are going to do this, I recommend you make a list of the things you like and dislike in the room, then gather images of rooms and elements that inspire you. Look in home decor magazines, on Pinterest and on Houzz where you can easily save your ideas.
Making a vision board can help your ideas come to life.
3. What are your senses experiencing in your home?
If you use your home well, it will inevitably occasionally have a smell you need to get rid of. Whether its from cooking, or pets, because you live there every day, you may become used to it, and not notice a stale smell.
Open some windows and air out your home on a fresh day. While you’re at it, wash the windows. This simple task can change the light and make everything feel fresher.
Burn a candle you love, or diffuse some essential oils in a scent that inspires you.
How is your lighting? Is it welcoming? Bright enough where it needs to be, and soothing in gathering areas?
Some of the new energy saving bulbs can give off a cooler less cozy light. Make sure the lights you are putting in gathering areas are not harsh and cold.
What do you hear? Is there a busy road near you?
Can you play music throughout your house? With portable speakers and music at our fingertips on our phones it is easier than ever to be able to listen to what you love.
Bonus, (and most important!) tip:
Make sure you are sharing your home with those you love. Your family, your friends, your pets. Make it welcoming and comfortable for life to unfold.
Truly it is just a nurturing stage for you to live out your dreams.
In the words of Tom Waits, ‘House Where Nobody Lives’:
So if you find someone
Someone to have, someone to hold
Don’t trade it for silver
Don’t trade it for gold
I have all of life’s treasures
And they are fine and they are good
They remind me that houses
Are just made of wood
What makes a house grand
Ain’t the roof or the doors
If there’s love in a house
It’s a palace for sure
It ain’t nothin but a house
A house where nobody lives
Without love it ain’t nothin
But a house, a house where
Kimberly is a home and lifestyle coach, helping women identify and realize their best home and life. She has been featured in publications and podcasts, and is a Huffington Post contributor. She believes our surroundings and relationships have a direct effect on how happy we are. If you want to learn more about how to live in alignment, raise your vibration and create your peaceful, happy home and life, click here to get weekly tips and more information on working with her.